Keeping Friends and Colleagues Safer

Command Your Kids, But …

Unfortunately, as a martial artist, you can’t treat all companions equally.  This is where the adage of different strokes for different folks really comes into play.

It may be okay to bark commands to your children in an emergency situation, but you can’t do that to colleagues … or worse, your boss, when and if a self-defense emergency arises.

You have to have a special way to communicate with the people you work with. Most people will also have to treat their friends with the same kid gloves as you do folks in the workplace.

Egos and job hierarchies can get in the way of necessary communication, which can pose a big problem.

This article shows you one effective way of taking control without ruffling feathers.

You’re the Only Martial Artist In The Equation

First, and foremost, I’m going to assume that you’re the only real martial artist in the situation.

While this might be true, lots of people think they can handle any situation. Others doubt they can handle it, but feel that their egos necessitate them handling any altercation.

Any of these step forward feeling by your companion could get in the way of you protecting the both of you. (On the other hand, it could make your life easy; just stand back and watch the show … so to speak.)

For the sake of argument, let’s say that you are a martial artist, well trained in practical application self-defense. While it might be amusing for a moment, this could be a serious altercation … nothing to joke about.

If your companion can’t help you … then you need him or her out of the way, so you can … “do your stuff.”

The One Question to Avoid All Ego and Communication Problems

For me, the absolutely easiest way to “take over” in a time of crisis is simply to ask, “Want me to handle this?”

I ask innocently with a casual, yet confident tone. I’m almost intimating that “this is nothing new for me, and I’d be happy to make your life easier by taking care of this slight annoyance.”

All of that is conveyed with my tone and attitude with the simple query of, “Would you like me to deal with this snafu?”

Now, this may or may not work for you. The key is for you to find some phrase that “let’s your companion off the hook, while allowing them the dignity of not be perceived as a panicked deer in headlights.

The More Passive Role

If some jerk starts hassling the colleague at your side, you might have to act passively, at least at first.

In these cases, you can offer to “help” or “assist.”

Of course, this offer completely kills your element of surprise to the bad guy, but it might go a long way to preserve the relationship with your fellow worker.

If you play the role of the bystander, then you could execute a sneaky move the minute he or she turns their back to you. If you offer to help your companion, no such surprise would be possible.

Mediator, Even If You’re Normally the Hothead

My last suggestion for this article is for you to become the mediator. Rather than offering to help your companion, thus informing the attacker that you are with the “victim,” you pretend that you’re a neutral party to this.

You offer to mediate and smooth things over.

I say “pretend,” because you do want to smooth things over, BUT you have the hidden agenda of favoring your friend.

In the discussion, you keep your companion safe, and should the talk go sour … you can “decide to favor the defender.”

It appears to any onlookers that you were being reasonable, but then took sides, when it became apparent that you were dealing with a jerk.

Remember, all of the above assumes that your colleague is NOT a martial artist. If he or she does happen to be as skilled as you are, then Click Here (for an article that takes advantage of this double-teaming possibility.)



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